Sometimes we are all asked to perform a task that we just wish could be delivered by another person. And generally, those assignment requests involves grievances or controversial situations. Such an assignment fell on me when my baby brother died a few years ago. What concerned me was the fact that I was not the oldest sibling and I thought our oldest sister should have stepped up to the occasion. However, since she was the matriarch of the family and ruled the roost, her decision prevailed.
Needless to say, I delivered the Eulogy for our brother!
The sadness and sorrow I felt for carrying out this assignment was mainly because of my personal feelings for the deceased. You see, my brother went home to be with the Lord at an early age of 74 years old. He had never married, nor did he have any children. Immediately after his High School graduation in 1963, he was drafted into the Army and assigned to a 3-year tour of duty in North Viet Nam. He came home from the war wounded and 100% disabled. He became a ward of the Veteran Administration and remained in their medical and hostel care until his demise.
I felt he had lived such a shallow life full of loneliness, sadness, and broken dreams. Now, perhaps you can sympathize with me as to why I was reluctant to deliver my brother’s Eulogy. So, what I did was to go to God in fervent prayer. I asked him to give me the right words, ideas, and uplifting content to compose a light-hearted and information message that would be uplifting to our family members, friends and acquaintances that would be in attendance at the funeral services.
The results of the Holy Spirit’s intervention in assisting me with composing the Eulogy was phenomenal. And just in case you (my readers) are ever put into this kind of situation, it is my prayer that you can apply some of these heavenly ideas that I received that led me to deliver a very short two minute speech that brought the funeral attendees to their feet with resounding accolades at the conclusion.
Below is an excerpt of the advise I received from a conversation with God to help me prepare a befitting Eulogy for a brother ‘less traveled’ in life then most people…
- KISS – Keep it simple (my) servant.
- Collect anecdotes from correspondence sent to others or harmless pranks he did to others that brought lasting memories.
- What life-lessons did you and others learn from him as an adult or as a young child.
- What gleeful mannerism did he play on people.
- What made your brother unique and a cut above his peers?
- Avoid dwelling on any sad life-long memories or events he may have suffered or did nothing to show the love of God.
- Use this time to express any message that can alleviate guilt, sadness, shame or sorrow for the future.
A Eulogy Befitting My Brother I am sure that there is no one gathered in this assembly today that has not heard of the bible verse I am about to quote. And it does not matter if you are a Believer in Christ Jesus or a believer in yourself or some other gods. Somewhere in your upbringing I know you have run across John 3:16. "For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life." You know, Brother died unexpectedly and alone...without any relatives, friends or loved ones at his bedside. And that has bothered me to no end...so naturally I prayed about it!!! And for comfort, during these past two weeks, the Holy Spirit has continued to give me reassurance that a host of angels were around Brother's hospital bed on that final night of his earthly residency to remind him of those most cherished words from John 3:16. I was also comforted with the thought that those heavenly messengers were also singing praises and giving thanks for a mere mortal soul who had at an earlier age surrendered to the call of his country and had offered his life so that other generations to come might remain free. He honorable severed in the US Army and suffered life-threatening wounds which permanently left him handicapped for the rest of his life. The Heavenly Host had an extended conversation with me about how this mortal man was so thoughtful during his lifetime. They were amazed at how generously after his tour of duty, he shared his remaining life with others while knowing that he himself was without wife or children to hold, provide for and to love. And finally, the Angels concluded that although Brother was the baby of his family and resided in his home town, his surviving brother and 2 sisters lived far away in other states. And with the urgency for my brother to answer the call and be taken up to his new celestial residency, they would not have time to get to the hospital to deliver their last 'goodbyes'. So as I close this tribute to Brother, I believe us 3 remaining siblings have been vindicated. Our guilt for not being at Brother's bedside has been removed. We, the remaining siblings also hope that our brother sees us officiating now and that he has searched our hearts and realizes that without a doubt, we beg him for forgiveness for being absent from his bedside in a time of need. We also hope that this Home-going celebration has been a worthy tribute for his journey to his celestial home. So on behalf of Brother's immediate family members, his extended clan-family members, all his friends, loved ones, caregivers, and guests in attendance, we say 'thank you' for helping us celebrate the life of Brother, a child of the King. My final request is to everyone under the sound of my vice...I invite you to stand and shout out in a loud voice, "Fare ye well, beloved Brother". Then, blow a kiss to the wind and give a resounding hand clap of love in appreciation for Brother's life and his suffering for so many others. May our Lord and Savior richly bless and keep all of you.
May Our Brother Rest In Peace
My Prayer For You:
Dear Holy Spirit, We humbly come and ask You to give us the right words to use to proclaim Your message to the masses so that the good tidings of Jesus Christ can be heard all over the earth and for every occasion under the sun. Amen
Scripture Lesson: “Pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints. Pray also for me (Paul), that whenever I open my mouth, words may be given me so that I will fearlessly make known the mystery of the gospel.” Ephesians 6:18-19
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8 thoughts on “God Provides Acts Of Benevolence During Times Of Bereavement”
Beautiful words given to you by God. The Holy Spirit I could tell was with you as you delivered your baby brother’s eulogy. Our God is so amazing 👏🏾 🙌🏾 💖!
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Yes, God is amazing. And so was our brother. (I corrected his age to 74 when he passed.) Also, thank you for your faithfulness and encouragement. May God richly bless you, my sister.
Thanks for another comforting and inspiring message. Your brother’s eulogy will help us comfort others and ourselves in times of bereavement.
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Dear Edna, I hesitated at first to publish this blog but, as I realized just how much I was agonizing over not being at my brother’s bedside, I felt guilty. So I asked the Lord in prayer how to receive His comfort and understanding. He advised me to put it in writing. So, I did through composing the Eulogy. I now feel vindicated, blessed and highly favorite. Amen
That is wonderful. You are freed and shining a light that will help others to be set free from guilt trap and receive forgiveness from themselves and the Master. Well done.
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Bless you, Edna. And my prayer for you is to also continue to teach the Word of God as fervently as you always do. Amen
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family 🙏 ✝️
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Thank you Brother Sanders for your sweet sentiments. It was just a little over one year ago (last November 2022) that my family and I laid to rest our dear baby brother. The military presented him with a Purple Heart Medallion, a 21 Gun Salute and the American flag. How befitting a ceremony. We are grateful for this recognition, but of course, we would rather have our beloved brother.